It was in 2010 when I first laid my eyes on the Ford Fiesta and to my surprise four years later this car still drove me nuts. It got to a point where my mother also started loving the car. I promised myself that if ever I graduated and got a job that I would definitely buy the car. Well , and that was my motivation to work hard in high school and in varsity. I would always look at this car on the roads and everytime Varsity work felt like a burden, one look at the Ford Fiesta was enough to re-energize my spirit back to function and remind me why I started in the first place. Today , I am the proud owner of my first dream car.
It is not always that simple. To dream and be able to see your dreams come to pass does not happen by night. Prayer, faith and a tenacious attitude towards your dreams and the hard work can help you get there. You have to know what you want. You have to listen to that little voice inside that says “it’s possible, try again” ; you have to ignore the voices that tell you that you cannot; you have to push your own limits. And you never have to settle for less than your best.
It was in my final year of University , when I first learnt about the concept of “trusting the process”. At first it puzzled me because I’m the type of person who likes visualizing things and seeing objective results, hence why this was hard to grapple at first. What does it really mean to “trust the process”? Many people have their own understanding and it’s fair to say it is subjective after all. For me personally, I have realized that so many things are out of my control like the colour of my skin, the family I was born into, how other people perceive me and what happens to me tomorrow. This is how I trust the process. It is simply coming to terms with the fact that life ultimately defines itself; or seizing the moment- Carpe Diem and allowing the self (mind-body & soul) to fully experience the moment. The moment can be any circumstance that takes place in your life – be it the birth of a new baby, your adolescent experiences; your first day in varsity; the passing of a loved one; your graduation day and maybe even your wedding day. All these moments provoke a certain type of emotion either sadness, joy, sorrow, humiliation, regrets etc.
Trusting the process is about coming to terms with the fact that in your life story – that was meant to happen. Things are the way they were meant to be for your specific journey, maybe to give you a new experience , perhaps a new tale to tell or maybe to strengthen you and give you courage, a humbled heart and even a new fresh pair of eyes with which to view the next phase of your life with.
The moment I started trusting that everything that has happened in my life from my birth until now was significant to my own journey in life, it was when a lot of weight started being lifted off my shoulders. It has taught me to accept and acknowledge that I am not always in control, I will never be. It has taught me a great lesson of self acceptance and because of that today, I feel like I am starting to own my freedom.
Because no two journeys are similar, so is our experiences of events of our life making our journeys uniquely diverse.
And remember that not everyone who screams “Freedom” is really free , until they own their own liberation.
What is your understanding of trusting the process? Leave a comment below .
I had never dreamt of buying an item online because of fear of not getting my items. Simply put it, it seemed so foreign (no pun intended) to buy items online as I was used to the traditional way of purchasing items i.e at a shop. But today technology has made life a tad simpler since with the touch of one button you can buy anything anywhere around the world.
Here’s my first ever purchase from Tbdresses, I have seen many girls flaunting these bikinis on Instagram and Pinterest is filled with them, got mine because I didn’t want to feel left out this summer. It costed only $11 (R130) including shipping fees. Customs purchases are however excluded and depended on your country’s exchange rate and the value of the item.